{"version":"1.0","provider_name":"Grafton","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.grafton.org","author_name":"Sam Bauman, Ph.D, Independent Contractor","author_url":"https:\/\/www.grafton.org\/author\/sambauman\/","title":"What about the Parents? - Grafton","type":"rich","width":600,"height":338,"html":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"71pbxmsfRv\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.grafton.org\/what-about-the-parents\/\">What about the Parents?<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/www.grafton.org\/what-about-the-parents\/embed\/#?secret=71pbxmsfRv\" width=\"600\" height=\"338\" title=\"&#8220;What about the Parents?&#8221; &#8212; Grafton\" data-secret=\"71pbxmsfRv\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script type=\"text\/javascript\">\n\/* <![CDATA[ *\/\n\/*! This file is auto-generated *\/\n!function(d,l){\"use strict\";l.querySelector&&d.addEventListener&&\"undefined\"!=typeof URL&&(d.wp=d.wp||{},d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage||(d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage=function(e){var t=e.data;if((t||t.secret||t.message||t.value)&&!\/[^a-zA-Z0-9]\/.test(t.secret)){for(var s,r,n,a=l.querySelectorAll('iframe[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),o=l.querySelectorAll('blockquote[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),c=new RegExp(\"^https?:$\",\"i\"),i=0;i<o.length;i++)o[i].style.display=\"none\";for(i=0;i<a.length;i++)s=a[i],e.source===s.contentWindow&&(s.removeAttribute(\"style\"),\"height\"===t.message?(1e3<(r=parseInt(t.value,10))?r=1e3:~~r<200&&(r=200),s.height=r):\"link\"===t.message&&(r=new URL(s.getAttribute(\"src\")),n=new URL(t.value),c.test(n.protocol))&&n.host===r.host&&l.activeElement===s&&(d.top.location.href=t.value))}},d.addEventListener(\"message\",d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage,!1),l.addEventListener(\"DOMContentLoaded\",function(){for(var e,t,s=l.querySelectorAll(\"iframe.wp-embedded-content\"),r=0;r<s.length;r++)(t=(e=s[r]).getAttribute(\"data-secret\"))||(t=Math.random().toString(36).substring(2,12),e.src+=\"#?secret=\"+t,e.setAttribute(\"data-secret\",t)),e.contentWindow.postMessage({message:\"ready\",secret:t},\"*\")},!1)))}(window,document);\n\/* ]]> *\/\n<\/script>\n","description":"The teacher walked purposefully to the parking lot, saw me and said, \u201cJason spoke a full sentence today!\u201d  She seemed very proud. I was cautiously excited and commented, \u201cThat is great news. Tell me how it happened.\u201d Jason\u2019s teacher shared that they were having \u2018read aloud\u2019 time in his first grade class. All of the students were sitting on the floor, except for Jason, who was strapped to a chair (due to low muscle tone, and his tendency to lie down unless seated). After a few minutes, Jason had said the following: \u201cI want to get up now.\u201d   Doing my best to remain calm, I dryly commented, \u201cWell, over the years we have learned that if a person is restricted or made uncomfortable enough, they will eventually talk \u2013 conquering armies have use that tactic for years.\u201d She was crestfallen.  I shared that Jason had been speaking in full sentences for a few years now at home, and that he did it without being strapped into his seat.  Sadly, this teacher was recipient of all of my frustration: my long-standing struggle with the school that had repeatedly failed to understand my child and his needs, and a system that had grave difficulty in acknowledging his family\u2019s intimate knowledge of what worked for him. The child-serving systems are only now beginning to recognize the importance of so-called \u2018stakeholder-engagement\u2019, and have inadvertently isolated the families and other lay-supports. Luckily, there are proven and effective methods to engage families that will be addressed in this article.","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/www.grafton.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/08\/logo.png","thumbnail_width":1779,"thumbnail_height":417}